(Post by: Scott Hobbs)
Who does a hero look like to you?
Keep reading no matter your age, gender, status, etc. But know that my heart as I write this final blog post in our Hero Trilogy, is primarily for all my fellow men, husbands, fathers, and grandfathers out there that might, at some point in time, run across this account of what a true hero looks like.
Why am I singling out my fellow men? Because, I believe, based on my understanding of Scripture, that we are called to lead our families. Spiritually first and second, in all the ways of the world. How often we seem to get those in the wrong order.
Last week, one of our small groups got into a discussion about parenting. We discussed the intricacies of how to parent our adult children. Things like what does Dad do when his newly married daughter asks him what the grinding noise on her car is instead of asking her husband?
As fathers, of course we want to teach and help our kids in any way we can.
But, you see, it is our job to teach that daughter, while she is at home, to listen for those strange car sounds that may indicate a problem. It is also our job to tell that same, newly married daughter, to ask her husband first when that car sound pops up.
It is our job to train up our children in the way they should go. How to throw a ball, have good manners, conduct yourself in public, work hard, respect authority, make your bed, and brush your teeth. How to be a good loser, a humble winner, a safe driver, and to walk in integrity.
In a recent documentary my girls were watching, an elementary teacher said that when reading the great stories, such as Lilly and Michelle mentioned in the previous two posts, most of the kids, when asked, said the hero most reminded them of their dad.
I’m reminded of an old movie line when the captain of a submarine was asked a question and said he didn’t know. His second in command pulled him aside and rebuked him. “The captain always knows what to do; whether he does or not.” It seems like that is often the esteem our children hold us in. As dads, we are always supposed to know. We are to be their heroes.
In part two, Michelle said that our world is full of monsters, and we are forever at war with them. So, if we, as men, are to be heroes in the lives of those around us, why would we allow all the earthly monsters that get between our families and Jesus to win so many battles; without so much as a drawn sword? I’m not talking about murderous thugs on the street. It’s a given we have to be the hero there. But realistically, most of us will never face that challenge.
I’m talking about leading your family in meals together, conversation, and maybe even some devotions. I’m talking about saying we need to cut back on some extracurriculars so we can spend time as a family. I’m talking about being willing to lead and say we won’t participate in things that aren’t Godly. How about not letting our daughters out of the house half-dressed to date a boy she barely knows. Or telling our sons to stop blaming everyone else when something goes wrong. No more video games, respect your mother, and stand out from the crowd for Jesus.
Will you be the hero of those situations or just go along to get along?
Or maybe the question we really need to ask ourselves as men is whether we are living a life worthy of being looked at as a hero? What would your kids say? Do we even understand that at the core of all this is the fact that we must follow Jesus if we expect them to follow us. You see, in our own power and strength we are not worthy of them following us. We need Jesus. We must follow Him because He is worthy. In that, others may find a reason to follow us.
You see, most of the time heroes aren’t your John Wayne or Jason Bourne. They are just everyday folks, doing life well alongside Jesus. Those are the heroes I want to look up to; and maybe even work toward being like myself for my family.
The true hero will never forget that the most important thing he will ever do is lead his family to Jesus and eternity with Him. Nothing, and I mean nothing, else matters in the end.
Now go be their hero…
SO WHAT IS YOUR RESPONSE?
= How often to you “go along to get along” instead of leading and being the hero for your family?
= Did this post challenge you on your spiritual condition currently?
= What are you going to do differently?