(Post by: Lilly Hobbs)
The Lord has provided me with so many opportunities to pour into teen girls in a real and raw way.
Over the years that I have grown in my own faith and really started to live this “Jesus thing” out for myself, I can look back and see how God taught me exactly what I would need to know in order to disciple others and bring them along with me.
However, there is a lie that I have come to realize a lot of girls and even young women believe. Many girls/women think that they need a boyfriend/husband to be complete.
They feel like there is something missing if they do not have a man in their lives.
Trust me, I’ve had my fair share of “talks” with girls that I’ve discipled about why they should not obsess about a guy they just met, and why they shouldn’t slip notes to their friends in class about what guys they like, because it always ends in disaster.
These dominating thoughts about guys tend to consume us and completely distract us from our relationship with Christ. I’m sure every youth leader could agree with me on this.
I think that there is something deeper here though. As I dig into why we believe this lie so quickly, I now see how the enemy has tricked us into believing that our identity in Christ is not enough to be fulfilled.
That lie leaves us completely vulnerable to the enemy and the world.
Single girls, please here me. God is in the waiting. 1 Corinthians 13:4 says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.”
I think that we often forget what that first part of the verse entails. It says that it’s patient. What I wish girls would realize is that you don’t have to waste the time that you are being patient and waiting. You just don’t.
In my opinion, the “prime time” for growing and getting serious about your relationship with Jesus is while you’re waiting for God to give you the right guy.
You have less distractions. You don’t have to worry about cleaning the house every day, cooking meals, or running errands all the time.
Song of Solomon 2:7 says, “Young women of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and the wild does of the field, do not stir up or awaken love until the appropriate time.”
Spend this time wisely. Use it to fall in love with Jesus and His Word. Make sure that you have your priorities right.
Now, I know that it can still be hard. So let’s just face that reality. It’s not always going to be easy and there will be times that you fail and don’t want to wait with the right attitude anymore.
Elisabeth Elliot once said, “Waiting on God requires the willingness to bear uncertainty, to carry within oneself the unanswered question, lifting the heart to God about it whenever it intrudes upon one’s thoughts.”
Truth is, we are all probably in a waiting season of some kind. Whether you are waiting for God to show you what college to attend, which job to apply for, or what house to buy, sometimes we just have to remain patient and bring it to Jesus.
My challenge for you today is this: Don’t waste your waiting. No matter what. Use this time to become more like Jesus in every way possible. Believe me, that’s exactly what the enemy doesn’t want to see you do. Because it means that you trust your Savior wholeheartedly.
“Now to Him who is able to protect you from stumbling and to make you stand in the presence of His glory, without blemish and with great joy, to the only God our Savior, through Jesus Christ our Lord, be glory, majesty, power, and authority before all time, now and forever. Amen.” (Jude 1:24-25)
SO WHAT IS YOUR RESPONSE?
= Would you say that you related with this post? If so, in what way?
= Do you tend to rush things so that you can get what you want?
= What are you going to do differently?
Great job on this one . You are so right, we tend to waste our time thinking about boys or talking about boys . I myself am guilty of that for sure . i am not saying that we shouldn’t think about boys at all . It’s just that we need to be more wise with our time . I always pray for my future husband every time I do my devotional. i was think about it this way . I call it the” LOVE TRIANGLE ” . If God is the head of the triangle and you are on one side and your husband, boyfriend, or crush will be on the other side of the triangle , so if your eyes are on God and you are doing every thing you can to grow closer to God and your male friend is doing the same, than you both will grower closer to God and to each other. But if your eyes are focused on every thing else but God then you will grow away from God and from the man God has for you . And I always tell myself that if you first seek the kingdom of God then everything else will fall in to place.
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I love your illustration of the “love triangle” Marian! That’s an amazing way of thinking about it, while also keeping Jesus first. I’m definitely going to use that from now on! Now, if only we didn’t have crazy parents who like to be matchmakers lol! 🙂
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Thank you so much for the encouragement Gisele!! 🙂
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